If you’re in conflict...
​​​​​​You might be at your wits’ end, having the same fight with someone, and don’t know how you keep falling into conflict and how to get out.
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You may feel bullied by your partner, family, or even a colleague, and think you’ll never be respected or accepted.
Whatever the case, it very well could be literally (!) driving you and your loved ones mad.
How I can help
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, given enough time. Still, it doesn’t have to destroy the relationship, or even threaten it. In fact, conflict can even be constructive.
Reading the conflict
It’s not uncommon for conflict to seem to come from nowhere. One moment, there’s peace, and the next, there’s an inferno! It’s not chaos, but a pattern. It might be unrelated stress that colours a person’s tone with hostility, inviting a defensive reaction, and then a spiralling argument. And our family of origin history cast a shadow over the whole thing!
Holding your space
Central to conflict resolution is communicating our deepest values respectfully and maintaining them under pressure. “Keeping the peace” merely buries the conflict, only for it to erupt later. When we can communicate our deeply held values effectively and back them up with action, conflict loses its momentum.
Rewriting the "script"
When we identify and hold onto our values, interactions get a lot easier. It ceases to be so much about what others do to us, because we already know what our response will be, or how to take care of ourselves. With practice, we respond to attacks from a calmer, more centred place, and others respond in kind. Suddenly, the inferno disappears as quickly as it came!
Are you ready to improve the health of your relationships?
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